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False Pretenses And The Dangers Of Online Dating

This past Monday, Luc was charged with another felony – False Pretenses. While this charge was related to falsifying information on the life insurance application he took out on my son, I couldn’t help but think that Luc’s entire life has really been based on many False Pretenses. In the interest of full disclosure, I must…

I Blamed The Victim, Too – Until I Became One

“Mother Teresa would never marry Saddam Hussein.” These words were spoken to a friend of mine in reference to me after the death of my 15-month-old son, Prince McLeod Rams , during a panel discussion on family court. Four years ago, I would have believed the same thing. Since then, I have learned…

Honoring Another Survival Date

Two years ago, on October 21st 2012, I held my son in my arms as his heart stopped beating. Just a few days ago, I sat in a Prince William County Courthouse and saw my son’s killer for the first time in nearly two years. Many people expected that I would get some sort…

How To Stay Sane In Family Court

In a perfect world, two people who have a child together would stay together forever living happily ever after with their children. In a next to perfect world, couples who divorced would both me mentally healthy people, who were both great parents, and they could work out a perfect schedule where the children would have…

Choose Love Over Hate

“Behold, children are a gift of the LORD; The fruit of the womb is a reward.” – Psalm 127:3 Almost a year ago, my daughter was born. I fell in love with her from the moment I knew she existed. Every time I saw her on the sonogram (usually in the middle of her…

Saving Forgiveness For The Forgivable

Early this week, I read an article about a woman who forgave her rapist in open court. To give you some quick background on this story, Jane Piper was raped and beaten in the back seat of her car 11 years ago. For 11 years, she had been mulling over some choice words…

The Vicious Cycle of Child Abuse In The Black Community

Let me start by letting you all know that I consider myself a black woman; therefore, I believe I qualify as a member of the so-called “black community.” That said, I believe the black community is as diverse as saying “the American community”, but I digress. This past weekend, I had the privilege of being…

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Peterson

Almost a year ago, I wrote about a terrible tragedy – the murder of Adrian Peterson’s two-year old son. In the past week, you would have to have been hiding under a rock not to hear about how this same man, who lost a son he never had the chance to know, was now being…

Domestic Violence: Our Definitions And A Victim’s Denial

In the past week, many of you have likely heard a lot about Ray Rice being released from the Baltimore Ravens, and being indefinitely expelled from the NFL. For those of you who haven’t heard what happened, a video of Rice beating his wife in an elevator forced the NFL to make…

Reflections On Pregnancy

This week, I am releasing a post from the Cappuccino Queen vault that had been archived. I wrote this post while I was pregnant with my daughter. I hope you enjoy my reflections on pregnancy. 🙂 By the time this blog post is posted, I will be on the way to the hospital…