In February 2010, I met Lucifer for the first time in person (after several phone conversation and email exchanges). While in the above picture he appears to have aged about ten years in the three years since I first met him, I cannot say he didn’t look just as menacing back then – to some degree he did. The public is without a doubt wondering how a pretty, intelligent, and educated woman would have fallen for such a thug. (I have moments myself when I wonder the same thing.) Well, I am here to tell you that love is dangerous. I fell in love with the man Lucifer created specially for me. He read me like a book and presented who I believed, at the time, was my soul mate and Prince charming. Had I had the benefit of hindsight, I would have run away screaming. Instead, I was caught up into a whirlwind fake romance and fell victim to one of life’s most hideous and dangerous crimes -relationship fraud.
Some of you may wonder how a woman who had her son murdered could still qualify “relationship fraud” as one of life’s most hideous and dangerous crimes. I truly believe this to be the case because it was relationship fraud that precipitated these horrible events. Had Luc not presented a “false self”, I would never have fallen in love with him. Had I been exposed to the real monster hiding under the button-down shirt and khaki pants (this is what he wore when he wanted people to see the fake self), I would never have gone on a first date with this man.
Paul Ebert, the Commonwealth Attorney, said to me the other day that he didn’t know how I got wrapped up with such a man. This is after telling me that good people didn’t hang around with Luc. After spending a couple of minutes trying to explain myself to him, I realized that this might be a losing battle. Unless you have been charmed by one of these people it is very hard to understand. (His lawyers and the therapists who were all conned into defending him likely know this well) I know this because I used to be one of those people who believed that this sort of thing could never happen to someone like me. I would have watched this story on the news myself and said things like, “See…people like this should not have children, because they clearly are not responsible enough to properly vet their partners.” I would have said this because I was ignorant and because I was naïve.
Love is dangerous and the natural emotions a woman feels when she has a child with a man can be deadly. While Luc never came out and told me things like how his mother was found in his house lying dead on a plastic bag (and he was living off of her life insurance policy), he did have moments of rage and anger that scared the hell out of me. That being said, these moments didn’t happen until I was already in love with the “fake self”. As these nightmarish episodes occurred, I held onto the memory of the Luc I had first met and didn’t want to believe that this man didn’t exist. I had been love bombed.
The relationship that I had with this man cost me more than most people will ever experience in their lifetimes. The most hideous reality here is that this fraudulent relationship produced a sweet and innocent little boy. That boy is no longer with us because his mother feel in love with an “alleged” serial killer. His mother was a target who fell into a dangerous trap. Instead of mourning what happened to this little boy, there are many who feel better blaming his mother for having looked at this evil man and fallen for his charm and charisma. I have paid dearly for the mistakes that I have made, but I challenge you all to remember a time when you have made a mistake – to remember a relationship that when it ended you breathed a sigh of relief for having dodged a bullet – to remember regretting having fallen for someone’s lies. All of us have done things for which we are not proud (if you haven’t then you are probably a little disordered yourself), but most of us have not had to pay for those mistakes with the loss of our children.
I ask you to focus this conversation on my son and his legacy. Let’s not ignore what happened here – making ourselves feel better trying to believe this could never happen to us or anyone we know. Not only could this happen to anyone, but something similar (maybe to not the same degree) has happened to someone you know. If you ignore the reality of how dangerous people like Luc are, chances are greater that this sort of thing will happen to you.
I would be lying if I said I couldn’t remember a time when I looked at this monster and believed he was a good man. Now, however, I look at this mug shot and I see the devil himself. I see a man who is ugly, menacing, and evil. I am thankful that no matter what happens to this man, no other woman (or man) will ever be conned by this man into believing that he is good.