Posts by Hera

Tomorrow my son will have to endure another full day with Luc (the ex spath).  I wish I could say it gets easier, but it really doesn’t.  I don’t think it will ever be easy turning my innocent little baby boy over to a man who I know is such a terrible monster.  Every day…

Since the last round of my “Custody War” with Luc (my ex psychopath), I have thought a lot about the flaws in our legal system.  I run the events of the trials (“battles”) over and over in my head. I still can’t understand how such a disordered man like my ex can be allowed to…

The other day, my mother told me a story about a wonderful scene she saw while buying a drink at a local Starbucks.  She said there was this man with his eight year old son playing chess.  They each had their specialty drinks and the man was patiently teaching his young son about the game…

A woman sent me an email today asking for advice in her custody case. I won’t mention her name as I don’t want to blow her identity; however, she had some great questions.  She has been fighting her psycho ex for two years and they are just getting to their custody trial (in a couple…

Today I went on a “mini date” of sorts (that means we just grabbed coffee in the middle of the day).  Dating as a single mom has proven to be more difficult than I thought.  Up until a few weeks ago, I wasn’t even thinking about dating – ever.  I recently realized, however, that the best…

As a young child, my parents always called me the “party police”.  I was the good girl who never liked to see people breaking the rules.  I never smoked, never drank underage, never did drugs, and never stole anything.  I grew up believing in justice and always believed that the courts and the police would…

Today me and baby boy spent the day doing some of our favorite activities.  We went to get crepes for lunch, roamed around the bookstore, and went to a gym class at the baby gym and chased each other around (yes, I know…you know you are a mom when this is your idea of a…

I recently started dating again.  It’s been over two years since I have been on a date and now I have a child.  (I know this is pathetic, please don’t judge me – I have been traumatized)  Being a single mother (not to mention one with extra ex psychopath drama) makes dating feel like a…

As part of my mission to bring back some of the old (and fabulous) parts of Cappuccino Queen that have been missing since tornado Luc, I have being trying to go to the gym as often as I can.  For those of you raising small children on your own, you understand that finding time for…