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Why do we pity the abuser – The Rihanna Interview with Oprah
On Sunday August 19th, I watched Oprah’s interview with the R&B singer Rihanna. I usually don’t stay awake this late, but last night I made a point to do so because I was intrigued by what Rihanna would say when asked about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Chris Brown. In case you…
Read MoreI was “love bombed” by a Psychopath
Today me and baby boy spent the day doing some of our favorite activities. We went to get crepes for lunch, roamed around the bookstore, and went to a gym class at the baby gym and chased each other around (yes, I know…you know you are a mom when this is your idea of a…
Read MoreFeeling like a “Relationship Leper” after dating a Psychopath
I recently started dating again. It’s been over two years since I have been on a date and now I have a child. (I know this is pathetic, please don’t judge me – I have been traumatized) Being a single mother (not to mention one with extra ex psychopath drama) makes dating feel like a…
Read MoreGym Lady and 13.9 Million single parents
As part of my mission to bring back some of the old (and fabulous) parts of Cappuccino Queen that have been missing since tornado Luc, I have being trying to go to the gym as often as I can. For those of you raising small children on your own, you understand that finding time for…
Read MoreMourning the man that never was (because he is a psychopath)
Before I had children, I always dreamed that my children would have a wonderful relationship with both me and their father. Given the close relationship that I have with my father, I could never have imagined a situation where I would NOT want my child’s father to have access to him/her. (Until now,…
Read MoreA letter to my baby boy
I have thought a lot lately about what I will tell my son when he starts to ask me about his father. Of course, I hope that when that day comes his father is in jail where he belongs. This jail dream is where I will keep my thoughts for the time being. I haven’t…
Read MoreThe sociopath’s rape by deception
I’m angry – period. I am tired of people telling me that I need to “get over it” because Luc is baby boy’s biological father. In that vein, I guess rape victims should just “get over it” too? People who have been physically abused should just “get over it”? If Luc had jumped out of…
Read MoreStaring at a reflection of me – pre psychopath encounter
Tonight I am spending the night in a city I haven’t been to in almost 8 years. Earlier today, I took a walk on a pier that held a very special memory for me. I was 23 years old when I stood on this pier the last time. Tonight, as I stood on the pier…
Read MoreCalculated Seduction
Today I watched one of Donna Anderson’s videos on her blog lovefraud.com. She was talking about how you should be careful if the person you just start dating appears to be your soulmate very early on. Donna said that sociopaths conduct “calculated seduction” where they pay close attention to what you want, mirror your desires,…
Read MoreCrazy Sign Lady
A few days ago, I was sitting at work trying hard not to fall asleep at my computer when a message from my friend popped up on my screen. She said, “Dude, you will never believe what is happening out at the front gate.” As this was likely to be the most exciting part of…
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