Posts by Hera

  Before I had children, I always dreamed that my children would have a wonderful relationship with both me and their father.   Given the close relationship that I have with my father, I could never have imagined a situation where I would NOT want my child’s father to have access to him/her.  (Until now,…

I have thought a lot lately about what I will tell my son when he starts to ask me about his father.  Of course, I hope that when that day comes his father is in jail where he belongs.  This jail dream is where I will keep my thoughts for the time being.  I haven’t…

I’m angry – period.  I am tired of people telling me that I need to “get over it” because Luc is baby boy’s biological father.  In that vein, I guess rape victims should just “get over it” too?  People who have been physically abused should just “get over it”?  If Luc had jumped out of…

Tonight I am spending the night in a city I haven’t  been to in almost 8 years.  Earlier today, I took a walk on a pier that held a very special memory for me.  I was 23 years old when I stood on this pier the last time.  Tonight, as I stood on the pier…

Today I watched one of Donna Anderson’s videos on her blog lovefraud.com.  She was talking about how you should be careful if the person you just start dating appears to be your soulmate very early on.  Donna said that sociopaths conduct “calculated seduction” where they pay close attention to what you want, mirror your desires,…

A few days ago, I was sitting at work trying hard not to fall asleep at my computer when a message from my friend popped up on my screen.  She said, “Dude, you will never believe what is happening out at the front gate.”  As this was likely to be the most exciting part of…

When I was a child, my family called me “the party police”.  I was that kid who would march around the house telling all the guests at the party the rules of the house.  If someone would break a rule, little 6 year old cappuccino queen would have a meltdown.  Growing up, I always felt…

A few months before my son was born, Luc made a huge show of proposing to me.  In true sleezy Luc fashion, he also wouldn’t stop talking about how he spent months looking for the highest quality ring he could find.  He even showed me some receipt (likely one he made on his computer) so…

My new favorite drink at Starbucks is a Grande Soy Dirty Chai Latte. (I have my caffeine addicted sister to thank for getting me addicted to this particular drink)  A Dirty Chai Tea is just like a regular Chai, but it has a shot of expresso. (Note:  Today I am having a “coffee bean” kind…

One of the first things that I should have noticed that was off about Luc was his ability to shift reality to fit his own needs.  Luc will lie to your face, get caught in the lie, and still try to convince you that he did not lie to you and that, in fact, it…